09 Jan

Happy New Year!

I hope you all had a safe and happy holiday season. May we put behind all the sadness of 2016, and focus on the success of 2017.

Since my last post, I’ve been thinking about blogging and writing, and decided to take a hiatus from both. I’d like to focus on other things in my life right now. If something comes up and I want to share, I’ll post it. If I feel the desire to write again, I’ll go with it. But for now, I think it’s best to put them aside.

I wish you all a wonderful year! May all your goals and dreams come true!

New Year and Goals,
Baer Necessities

30 Nov

A Way with Grammar

I’d like to spread some humor and a bit of sadness by sharing a few grammar mistakes found on signs, ads, and text. These do not need any explanation, but if you are having trouble figuring out what’s wrong with them, I suggest you attend your child’s English lessons or watch Schoolhouse Rock.

Your going to be sorry if you’re English is not good even thou their are plenty of things out they’re for you to do.

Literacy and Silence,
Baer Necessities



23 Nov

Guest Post by Tara Woods Turner

Today’s guest post is by Tara Woods Turner. I met Tara on Goodreads, discussing writing, politics, political correctness, and many other subject matters she tackles with an intelligent, clear, and kind voice. She is the second non-fiction author I am proud to introduce and have on my blog.

Bio: Tara Woods Turner is an author, etiquette consultant and publisher. She is founder and CEO of Turner Etiquette Press and has been a frequent guest on radio talk shows, podcasts and blog spotlights. A Salisbury, NC native, she currently lives in New York, NY with her husband and her hyperactive puppy, Catherine. Tara subscribes to the belief that great families build great societies and spends far too much time analyzing James Taylor lyrics.

The Power of Polite –  Good Manners and Your Child’s Self-Esteem

Could your child’s emotional boost be one etiquette lesson away? Whether it’s in a formal class with a certified etiquette consultant or from your own dinner table discussions, exposure to the finer points of social interaction can have beneficial effects on your children’s self-esteem and sense of worth.

According to the American Academy of Family Physicians the single biggest element that determines how children feel about themselves is how they perceive their worth to parents, friends and peers, respectively. This puts parents squarely in the driver’s seat when it comes to establishing the crucial metrics by which children will measure their  value. Understanding the tenets of etiquette can assist parents with this goal. The thoughtful, respectful treatment of others is an expression of the value we place on not only others, but on ourselves. It performs multiple tasks, becoming both result and motivation – we can treat others well because we understand that we deserve the same treatment in return. The social contract becomes a vehicle through which our children can see their value through our efforts to prepare them for lasting success. In short, by teaching good manners you are letting your children know that you want the world to see that they are as wonderful as you know them to be – a powerful symbol of the value they hold in your eyes and within the family unit. Your children will see that they deserve to reap the noteworthy rewards of possessing the character, integrity and ethics you have instilled in them.

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Here are some powerful benefits of teaching your children how to treat others – the dynamic results that will enhance their pride in themselves and their social acumen:

Positive Feedback Loop

Processes that yield positive results initiate an organic desire to repeat them and children who exhibit great manners and a winning attitude experience the same phenomena. People will respond favorably to them, praising their conduct and singling them out for special privileges and distinction. Peers will seek out their company, as such children are loathe to engage in less than amiable behaviors such as gossiping, teasing or taunting. These beneficial social foci increase the chances that your children will continue the behaviors, which in turn, continue to reward them for the practice. Children who observe their table manners, for example, and are capable of polite, interesting, engaging conversation will be asked out on more worthwhile excursions than those who make no effort to do so or are unaware of the ways in which to be more accommodating and polite. The positive cycle continues!

Shining Star

When children mind their P’s and Q’s they are more likely to stand out for all the right reasons. Respect for others, including authority figures comes with its own rewards above and beyond the satisfaction that can be derived from good behavior. Those who care for and instruct our children have an important role that is replete with responsibility. Children who are responsive, attentive and cooperative make their jobs infinitely easier. The result is an appreciation of model behavior that often manifests itself as special acknowledgements, added responsibilities and increased trust. With even basic encouragement your children will make a great impression simply by making eye contact when conversing with others, speaking clearly and distinctly and giving their full attention to conversation partners, just as an example. People notice the exemplary and a child who is keen on courtesy is sure to make the social grade.

Leaders vs Followers

One of the best off-shoots of  teaching children good manners is watching their confidence bloom. Interpreting social norms and deciding how closely to adhere to them is a personal choice and your child will make these decisions based on personality, interests, character and individualized  family dynamic and value ecosystem. But a conscious regard for others coupled with respect and consideration gives your child a firm foundation on which to form a unique sense of autonomy. This develops confidence in a healthy way because it is based on choice and self-determination and it is this confidence which decreases your child’s need for group approval. The more certain children feel that they are doing the right thing in every situation the less they will look to their peers for guidance and validation, finding strength in their own choices and potentially becoming an example for less secure friends and acquaintances.

So the next time your children exhibit less than model behavior remember that by crystallizing these habits they may be missing out on an opportunity to organically learn how to celebrate their best, most amazing selves!

Don’t forget to visit Tara’s Website and check out and follow Tara’s Amazon Page regarding her current publication and future works.

Manners and Self-Esteem,
Baer Necessities









02 Nov

Writing Advice List!

This post is a bit different. I thought I’d create a fiction writing alphabetical advice list based off my experience as a writer, author, and publisher. Hope you find something of value.

ABCs of writingAudience – It’s rare I hear authors talking about their audience, which is an important aspect to selling your book. Let your audience feel as if you wrote the book for them, and that comes from knowing who is going to read it. Don’t try to sell a romance novel to a thriller audience. All will suffer in the end.

Beta Readers – Target audience readers, who read a novel and provide feedback to the author regarding what works and doesn’t work for them. Beta readers and/or critique partners are invaluable in getting an outsiders point of view. Writers are too close to their characters and plot, so plot holes go unnoticed and/or a lack in character development.

Characters – Some types of genres rely heavily on character development because they’re character-driven. Even those that are plot-driven still need plausible characters. Are they uneducated, funny, mean? Take the time to study your characters. This helps with the development, dialogue, and believability, which ultimately connects the reader to the story.

Dialogue – Dialogue is great in molding a character. Readers can get a sense of a character from how they interact with other characters. If you have a character that lived their entire life in the countryside, you can change their speech to reflect their surroundings and naiveté of city life. This is part of character building.

Evolution – Like life, we like to see character’s evolve, growing and advancing throughout the story. You want them to learn something they didn’t know at the beginning. Keep in mind that your characters can only evolve within a realistic amount of time. Realistically, a killer can’t turn their life around overnight.

Freewriting – This is when you write without worrying about the condition of the Freewriting is freeingwriting—to write without editing. It’s a great way to let ideas pour onto the page by exploring characters and plot without the baggage of grammar and outlines. If you struggle with writer’s block, this is one way to combat it.

Genre – Genres define the type of book written. This is still a troublesome area for most authors because there are so many categories a book fits into nowadays. Some authors have redefined or created new genres. For help in finding your genre, list the themes in your book, such as romance, humor, and adventure equals a romantic comedy.

Hook – This is what writers refer to when hooking readers at the beginning of the book. The first/opening line or paragraph of a novel need to have a good hook. A novel should capture a reader’s attention from the first paragraph, so they’ll continue with it.

Imagery – Describing a character or setting using the five senses. This is part of showing instead of telling. Aside from sight, use the other senses. This gives the reader a better understanding of character and setting.

Jargon – Language used by a particular profession or group that other’s don’t understand. If one of your characters is a doctor, they might rattle off medical jargon—another additive for character development.

Killjoy – This isn’t actually a writing term, but I thought I’d use it in my alphabet advice. Killjoy is a person who ruins the enjoyment for others. Writers sometimes tend to explain too much, insulting the reader’s intelligence. Don’t explain everything to the reader, which I consider a killjoy. Give your audience some credit when it comes to following and understanding the story. If it’s written well, they shouldn’t have any problems.

Lazy – Many people who are starting out as writers feel the need to ignore writing rules. They believe there is no such thing. This is a lazy way of thinking. Of course there are rules because writing is a craft—a skill that very few have without practice and knowledge. Those who think this way are too lazy to learn the skills of writing, for example, character and plot development, show vs. tell, language, and the list goes on.

Mood – Book covers, language, set the mood of a novel. It helps define genre. If a novel is a crime mystery, then you want the book cover, blurb, and language to set the mood. There’s nothing wrong with throwing in humor or other themes, you want layers, but the main tone is what deepens the reader’s experience.

NavigatorAnother word I thought I’d add to writing. You are the navigator of your story, and it’s your job to navigate through characters, conflict, climax, up to the end. Sub-plots are great. They interrupt the flow, similar to life, navigating the main story or characters. If you go off-course, unfocused, there’s a good chance your reader will stop and navigate to another book.

Opposition – Hostility and conflict are great in novels. They keep the reader’s attention. Life is all about obstacles and successes. Let your characters and plot reflect reality.

Point of View – This is the perspective of the story sometimes told from a character’s perspective or a third party. Every writer finds their own comfort in POV. Here are the different POVs: First person, Second person, and Third peson (limited, multiple, omniscient.

Quit – Writing can become lonely. Many writers question whether they’re good enough. If you love writing, put in the time to learn, then I suggest you stick it out. Accept the fact that you will feel alone at times. You might not sell the amount of books you had hoped. But isn’t life all about doing what you love? Just make sure that if you’re going to publish and charge for your works, that you’re offering your best.

Revisions – Revising a book is so important. I see writers posting on forums that they finished writing their story and want to publish now. They only have one draft—the rough draft. You and others must revise your book many times. Revise, revise, give to a beta reader or critique partner. Revise, revise, and give to an editor. Revise some more. Send for a few proof copies, and revise some more. It’s much better to get it close to perfect the first time you publish than taking your book down because of editing complaints.

Sabbatical – It’s good to take some time away from your manuscript. This allows your mind and eyes to rest before tackling revisions. Even during revisions, make sure you put it aside, especially if things start getting jumbled.

TenacityTenacity – To be a writer, one needs to be persistent when it comes to all aspects of writing. There are times when you will want to give up. Maybe you feel someone writes better than you. Or you’re having difficulty writing dialogue. If you love it, keep the drive going. What you put into it is what you’ll get out of it. Writing isn’t all about sales. There’s a personal satisfaction when you finish a novel—a sense of accomplishment. This is what usually drives us onto the next project.

Unacquainted – If you’re unacquainted with medicine, and your story contains a doctor, it’s your job as a writer to make sure you research it. There’s nothing worse than reading a book where the author did not know the subject matter. They didn’t research it. Get acquainted with whatever subject you put into your novel that you don’t know much about.

Voice – Writers have their own voice. Don’t wish you could write like Stephen King because you won’t be able to, nor should you want to. Find YOUR voice when it comes to writing and try to perfect it.

Writer’s block – Most writers experience writer’s block. Nothing comes to them to write, or they’re stalled on a project. Step away and try something new, such as freewriting. The more you worry about it, the harder it is to get rid of. Instead, try to jiggle your creativity in other ways.

Xenial – It means to be hospitable between host and guest. Be hospitable to your readers. They will stick around if you show them love.

Yell – Sometimes a character, the way the story is going, writer’s block makes you want to yell. Go ahead and do it. Yelling is a great way to release frustration.

Zealous – Passion, eagerness, this is the glue that keeps us writing. Stay committed to the craft, to your passion, to your dream, and in the end you’ll be rewarded.

Did I miss something?

Passion and Advice,
Baer Necessities




19 Oct

Preparations for National Novel Writing Month

For those of you who want to be writers, November is a perfect time to put your writing skills to the test. It’s National Novel Writing Month (NaNoWriMo), so I thought I’d give you some pointers on the site and writing.


National Novel Writing Month is where writers from all over the world gather and write 50,000 words between November 1 and November 30. The only thing you win is the satisfaction of knowing you succeeded in writing a novel, and possibly gaining new friendships.

Before getting into it, I thought I’d share my experiences regarding NaNoWriMo. I had participated in 2008 and 2014 with success. My 2008 novel turned out to be my first publication in 2011; Net Switch, a dark, psychological suspense thriller. At the time, I was a full-time employee, so I know about the struggles in finding time to write. I’m currently working on my 2014 crime mystery novel, which will be a 2-book series.

The Site

1) Create an account on NaNoWriMo.org. Most people are wary of putting personal information down, but it helps other writers get to know you. Leave out where exactly you live. Let others know how long you’ve been writing, what type of genre you write, hobbies, books and authors you love. This is also a good time to add a writing buddy. If someone you know has signed up, get their exact username (a site glitch, so it must be accurate), pull up their profile and add them.

2) Then go to Regions – Find a Region, and search for the areas closest to you. The support of others, along with those nearby, is extremely helpful when writing. They also have write-in meetup places to join other NaNo participants.

3) Go to Inspiration – NaNo Prep and check out what’s available and convenient for you to do. Under Conversations, the Forums are another great way to connect with writers before, during, and after November.


1) Make an intention. Why are you doing NaNoWriMo? What is YOUR purpose? Then write it down and tape it somewhere visible on your computer.

2) If all you have are a few characters and a premise for a story, that’s all you need. Don’t be discouraged that you don’t have an outline or know how it’s going to end. Writing will decide character and plot. What you had planned doesn’t exactly mean your characters agree. Things will fall into place as your fingers tap away.

3) Write and don’t look back. Forget about spelling, sentence structure, and punctuation. Before I did NaNoWriMo, I constantly went backwards, editing sentences and paragraphs. This is about getting your story down. Editing comes later. Let the flow of writing happen. Let your characters’ hijack your thoughts and the plot twist whichever way feels right at the time. You can always change it later. You have a limited amount of time to get the story down.

4) When you need guidance or support, rely on the forum, your regions and buddies. As I stated in a previous post, I Want to be a Writer, it’s a journey of solitude, but it doesn’t always have to be. Reach out to others, and you’ll find there’s always at least one person feeling the same as you.

5) Don’t worry whether someone has more words than you, or if you think they’re a better writer. It’s not a race between writers. This is about YOU. Can you throw caution to the wind and write your butt off? Can you focus on your story and word count to finish on time? Like writing, this process is a journey of self-discovery.

6) If you fall behind, don’t panic and quit. That’s the easy way out. If you want to write, get your butt in a chair and refer to your intention. Remind yourself why you wanted to do this in the first place. When there’s no accountability or physical reward, people are okay with walking away from a challenge. Don’t! Your intention is just as important as public recognition. Make NaNoWriMo one of the defining moments in your life. What do you have to lose? Even if you decide not to work on your book for publication, you can say that you wrote a novel in a month.

7) Once you plug in your word count to receive your badge, take a break from the 50,000 words or more you have written before returning to it. Let it sit for a week or two, go treat yourself to something special, and then start revising. Revisions are what raise the word count, adds dimension to your characters, and meat to the story.

Good Luck! Write like the clap of thunder. Finish with the air of an Olympian.

Have you participated in NaNoWriMo? Would you like to add to this experience?

Self-Discovery and Narratives,
Baer Necessities